解:由题意,得$ \{\begin{array}{l}m-1=1\\n-2=1\end{array},$解得$ \{\begin{array}{l}m=2\\n=3\end{array} $
联立方程组$ \{\begin{array}{l}x+y=1\\x-y=3\end{array},$ 解得$ \{\begin{array}{l}x=2\\y=-1\end{array}$
把$ \{\begin{array}{l}x=2\\y=-1\end{array} $分别代入$ax+2by=4 $与$ bx+(a-1)y=3,$ 得
$\{\begin{array}{l}2a-2b=4\\2b-(a-1)=3\end{array},$解得$ \{\begin{array}{l}a=6\\b=4\end{array}$