解:$(2)$∵$(k$,$-3)$是$“$有趣数对$”$
∴$k-(-3)=2×k×(-3)$,∴$k+3=-6k$
∴$7k=-3$,∴$k=-\frac {3}{7}$
$(3)8[3mn-\frac {1}{2}m-2(mn-1)]-4(3m²-n)+12m²$
$=8(3mn-\frac {1}{2}m-2mn+2)-12\ \mathrm {m^2}+4n+12m²$
$=24mn-4m-16mn+16-12m²+4n+12m²$
$=8mn-4m+4n+16$
∵$(m$,$n)$是$“$有趣数对$”$
∴$m-n=2mn$
∴原式$=8mn-4(m-n)+16 =8mn-4×2mn+16=8mn-8mn+16 =16$