$解:(1)因为M+2N=8xy-3x-4y-2,$
$2M-N=x-6x+2y+11,$
$所以5N= 2(M+2N)-(2M-N)$
$=2(8xy-3x-4y-2)-(xy-6x+2y+11)$
$=16xy- 6x-8y-4-xy+6x-2y-11$
$=15xy-10y-15.$
$所以N=3xy-2y$$-3.$
$(2)因为x、y互为倒数,所以xy=1.$
$又M=2xy-3x+4=0,所以2-3x+ 4=0,$
$所以x=2,$
$则y=\frac{1}{2}$
$所以N=3xy-2y-3=3-2×\frac{1}{2}-3=-1.$